The last couple days I have become increasingly angry and concerned about how much stuff and how many things humans have. That these things have become peoples lives and no matter how hard we try, it is always going to be part of the human existence. Things have become so vital to our lives that many find that they wouldn’t know what to do without their stuff. We collect things in our homes, in our cars, in our technology. We keep boxes and closets packed full of belonging just incase we may need them one day. Or keep books and journals in case we want to remember the past. Some are meaningful, the old pictures that we keep bring in some joy, the old jewelry or clothing that bring you closer to those that have been lost. Simply knowing that you can snap a picture on the technology that we carry can bring a sense of calm, knowing that you will never forget the moment or the image. Yet these are just things. People collect so many things. Its not always about the things, but the moments. Stuff has become a sort of status symbol and the things have become our homes. It is hard to think of disconnecting from that sort of living, and we don’t need to completely give up our belongings in order to collect the moments. However, decluttering our brains and our spaces, can make room for new moments to be shared and memories to be made.
“People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime”.
I recently heard this quote for the first time, and it seemed to come to me at the perfect moment. In college, new people come into your life every day, whether it be a new class, meeting a friend of a friend or passing by someone you used to know. In normal life it isn’t always that easy to meet new people, so the individuals that come into your life later on seem to have more of an impact. I have come to realize that its not so important how long someone is in your life, but if they have made you realize something new. Either about yourself or the world around you, and it doesn’t have to be anything philosophical or life changing. I have been meditating a lot recently, and my most recent meditation really helped to clarify this for me. That some people are just not meant to be in your life forever, but hopefully they were there for a reason, and to those who do stick around for a lifetime, the lessons that were learned from the people along the way hopefully will benefit those in the future.
The future is daunting.
Trying to figure out your next steps and trying to navigate this crazy world is scary. The problem for many is trying to figure out what they are actually looking for. The late teens to early twenties are a time of tremendous exploration and new adventures but is also a time of great change and growth. Expecting this age group to pinpoint what they want to do for the rest of their lives is a crazy expectation, considering how much growing and maturing goes on during these years, yet the norm is to have individuals during this time choose their path. Deciding upon a major is one of the most difficult decisions that a college student will make because you are choosing something that will set you on a path for the rest of your life.The thought of making the wrong choice after spending so much time and money on the future is one that propels individuals to think long and hard about their goals. How can we be expected to plan out the rest of our lives now when we have so much more of it to live. It is simply too complex of a decision. The only thing you can hope for is that you are able to find the small things to find happiness and joy in alone the way,while at the same time try to figure out what your life will become.
Are we being true to ourselves? I can’t help but wonder how often we are being completely true to ourselves and what we believe in. In a society that is covered with social media outlets that spout article after article, television shows that show the glamorous and not so glamourous, and the many different options that can circulate throughout a household or within a school. How often are our opinions influenced by the many opinions around us? It is very difficult not to think differently about certain things when the countless arguments/opinions about the issues are given to you in so many different forms. We are products of our environment, so it is easy to assume that our opinions can be skewed from what we truly feel, to what is expected or just what is easy. One example is political perspectives, which is a big topic in the media right now with the presidential election coming to a head and it is said that 7 in 10 teens say their social and political ideology is about the same as their mom and dad’s. It can also be shown that many teens feel more pressure to attend certain colleges based on where their parents or grandparents attended school. Lastly, our personal image of ourselves can be dramatically altered because of the world of celebrities and what kind of people are being celebrated in our society. So, how many things in our lives are actually all based on our own beliefs? How much is based on influential factors? We need to do a better job of not allowing ourselves to be influenced by others or by the media. It is a hard thing to do seeing as their are influential factors everywhere. It is hard to know for sure how much of ourselves have been influenced by others, but is something to think about the next time you make a decision. If it is truly your decision.